Some talk about how they don't want to make friends with expats in their new location, that they wanna live like a local and all <too cool for school>
Seriously, when I move to a new location - I'm anyone's! Anyone that will talk to ME that is. We all know I'm the reactive kind of friend maker, my report card is currently marked in big red letters MUST TRY HARDER. Well *I hereby solemnly declare to do better next time*
Anyways, I have a confession...locals frigging scare me. I mean they swan around knowing everything there is to know and are totally clued up. I mean they already have a huge friendship base so why do they want to make anymore friends? Why do they want to invest time in a friendship that will likely go long distance in time?
In the infancy of a new relocation, around locals I feel like a dude that sees a girl he likes but she is surrounded by her group of friends, they are in the safety of familiar people & surroundings whilst you aren't; the fear of rejection is heightened. They also look like they have everything so "together" when life at the start of a placement is so mental - Picture this: Me in Paris standing outside in the rain looking into a Cafe peering into a group of girlfriends chatting excitedly sipping wine, my hands presses against the window pain (for total effect) then the view in front of me flashes to a picture of me and my friends back home doing the same thing...meep total meep.
But this is totally a generalist and stereotypical way of approaching things, no? My feelings are totally wrong and completely misguided, because friendship with locals is like gold dust...totally magical when you find it. Similarly ruling out expat friends is equally shameful. - expat friends are amazing too!
So why limit yourself? Any soul has the potential to light up your life whatever their situation.
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